A one night stand is a great way to have fun and blow off some steam. The idea of having wild sex with someone without worrying about whether or not it will lead to something serious can be very exciting. But what happens when you like the girl and want to hook up with her again? And when I say like, I do not mean it in a ‘wife material’ kind of way, but in an ‘it was the best sex I’ve ever had and would love to do it again’ way. What happens then? How do you turn a hot, steamy one night stand into a steady, committed booty call? How do you get a girl to have a casual, no strings attached relationship with you? Let me tell you.
1. Be Casual about It
Be casual about the whole booty call thing. Even in the era of free HD porn and legalized gay weddings, the term ‘booty call’ still has some negative connotations. Many women are hesitant to be in a no strings attached relationship because they are afraid they will come off as too needy or skanky. So, make her feel comfortable. Tell her that you really enjoy her company and would love to keep it strictly physical, without any emotional baggage or attachments.
As surprising as it may sound, not every girl is frantically looking for a long term relationship. Some of us love casual sex and some of us even like the idea of shacking up with the same guy, depending on how good he is in bed and how well he treats us. So, be open and honest and tell her that you would love to hook up with her from time to time. If you play it smooth, chances are she will be flattered and say yes.
2. Too Much of Anything Is Bad
Do not try to act too ‘boyfriend-y’ in an attempt to impress her. It means no cute pet names, texting sweet nothings, candlelight dinners, or breakfast in bed. Cuddling is mostly fine, but only if she likes it. Too much of sugary sweet romantic stuff could actually make her feel uncomfortable and want to back off from the whole booty call arrangement, especially if she recently got out of a bad relationship.
However, it does not mean that you could treat her with disdain and get away with it. If you do not pay her any attention and act all macho and alpha, she might not return your calls at all. Try to find a healthy balance and treat her with respect and love.
3. Be Good at What You Do
Give her good sex. Seriously, it is the axis on which the whole booty call thing revolves around. If you suck at it, there is no way you can expect her to return your calls or texts. You do not need to have movie star good looks or a monstrous thing to get her excited. It is the technique that matters, to a great extent.
Rub one out in the shower before you go out with her. You do not want to get too excited and finish it all in two minutes. Limit your alcohol intake. Too much booze can also lead to performance issues. Remember that foreplay is important. Flirt with her, touch her, tease her, and fondle her. Warm her up for a wild night of sex. Do not be selfish. Be a giver. Your penis is not the only thing that can excite her. Use your fingers and tongue and make her beg for more. Let her know that she could have it regularly if she wants to. If you are a man of action, she is likely to be tempted to become your committed booty call.
4. Be Uninhibited
Booty calls are about living out your sexual fantasies. Be open with your girl and ask her if she likes to do anything kinky. It could be dirty talk, role play, eating stuff off of each other, BDSM, or anything else that you are both into and feel comfortable with. It serves two purposes. First – the sex is always interesting, as you both have something to look forward to every time you climb into the bed. Second – it serves as a reminder to both parties that it is just a booty call and nothing serious.
5. Keep Your Place Clean
Make your home or room a place where she would like to come back to. Keep the geeky, nerdy stuff in the table drawers and tear out all the sleazy wall posters, if you have any. Tidy up the place and spray some room freshener or aftershave. The whole idea is to make her feel comfortable when she is with you and make sure the experience is good enough that she wants to do it again.