Second Chances After Cheating - Is It Worth It?

Second chances after cheating — worth it?

Considering forgiveness after being cheated on? Discover if giving a second chance is the right decision. Can people really change? Find out here.

Second Chances After Cheating - Is It Worth It?

Forgiving a Cheater

South Gloucestershire is full of potential suitors, and I know that as well as anyone else. I've been in the dating scene in the area for a long time now, and I know all about the type of men that are out there. Many different things separate men from each other and give them distinction. However, from my experience, all men are similar in one regard — they are all at high risk of cheating on you. Yes, all of them are at high risk. That is definitely not to say that most men out there are cheaters (I think that the ratio is something like 50/50), but I think it's important to note that men are polygamous in their fundamental nature. That is to say that, through evolution, men have developed the impulse of putting their organ in as many different women as possible, in order to spread their seed and continue their legacy. Again, not all men will act on that impulse, but they all have it rooted somewhere deep within them. However, it is obvious and it should be noted that some men actually do act on that impulse, and will cheat on their women despite the fact that they're in a loving relationship. It's truly an unfortunate fact of life. My husband has cheated on me once before, years ago, and it was really hard for both of us to go through. However, I'm happy to say that I'm now in the position of forgiving him for the incident entirely. I rarely think back on it, and when I look at my husband's face today, all I can think about is how much I love him. Have you been cheated on by your man? Are you looking to one day forgive him for it? Well, maybe I can help you with that.

Does a Cheater Really Deserve Forgiveness?

The first question you need to ask yourself is whether or not you still have true love for this person in your heart. If you still do, then your lover is probably worthy of forgiveness. Love is unique, in that there's no one else in the world exactly like your man, and you'll only be able to feel this brand of love when you're with him. If you love him, then you should probably try to forgive him for what he did to you.

Giving Cheating People Second Chances

Giving cheating people second chances can get tricky. In my opinion, I think that a second chance is the only one that should be given. If your lover is in the position where they are asking you for third, fourth, or even fifth chances, they are probably a serial cheater, and your bond won't end up working unless you like the idea of an open relationship. If the cheating was just an isolated incident, however, then they are probably worthy of a second chance as long as you still love them after catching them in the act.

Can People Really Change?

Can people really change? Well, yes, they can. My husband has not been the same person ever since I discovered him cheating. He seems more stoic and silent, and wiser. He really isn't the same person that I married, which I find exciting. I've changed from the experience as well. So will your partner, and so will you.

Know Your Worth

If you were cheated on by a partner, it's important that you know your worth, and you constantly remind yourself how great you are. Remember, their cheating was not at all a reflection on you — it was totally about them, and you shouldn't let it affect your self image.