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Forgiving an Affair

I've been in Raleigh for most of my life, and boy, am I familiar with the women in this city. There are so many beautiful women, and all of them have the potential to cheat on you. That's right — all of them. Of course, I'm not saying that all women are cheaters, but it's important to keep in mind the possibility of cheating. I was cheated on a few times before my marriage, so I knew going into my lifetime bond that my wife could possibly cheat on me. Sure enough, after a few years, I caught her in the act with one of her male friends. I'd like to say that I was entirely surprised by the fact that she would do something like that, but I was always prepared for the possibility of infidelity. Maybe you were cheated on by a lover recently, and weren't prepared for it. If that's the case, I truly feel bad for you. However, I learned to forgive my wife for what she did to me, and I'm confident that you can also forgive your partner for cheating on you.

Learning How to Forgive

Learning how to forgive is not an easy thing to do, but it is extremely important. The power of forgiveness i not something that is often spoken about in society, but it should be. When you learn how to forgive someone for breaking your heart, you become a better, stronger person from it. You learn things about yourself that you wouldn't normally have learned. For instance, when I forgave my wife for cheating on me, I learned that I was a strong, wise person, and I learned that the love within me can trump all outside circumstances.

Forgiving a Cheater is a Great Challenge

Forgiving a cheater is not easy. In fact, it's one of the greatest challenges that humans can possibly face. When you're cheated on by a loved one, your sense of trust is effectively shattered, and it takes a great deal of time and effort to rebuild it. When you do rebuild it, however, you discover that anything in life is possible. That discovery alone makes the whole thing worth it.

Realize that the Pain is in the Past

I know, it really hurts that your partner cheated on you. That pain lingers with you for a long time, even after you discovered the cheating. However, it's important to wrap your mind around the fact that the actual cheating occurred in the past, and the pain you're feeling right now is only a shadow of that initial incident. The incident does not exist in the current moment, so there is nothing but human frailty that keeps you locked into the pain. By all means, experience the pain in whatever way you feel you should, but always keep in mind that the incident is far behind you.

Attain Great Personal Power

As I've mentioned, forgiveness leads you to great personal power. It seems a little good to be true, but it really is the case. In life, it's always the hardest things that give us the greatest rewards. If you learn to go through the trials of forgiveness, you'll emerge from the experience as a better, stronger person. I believe in you, and you should definitely believe in yourself.