They say that dating is a numbers game and they’re mostly right. It is a numbers game, especially when it comes to casual online hookup dating. If you’re wondering how about getting responses on dating sites – what works and what doesn’t, then you should keep reading as I will run down the list of best practices for initiating conversations with girls online.
What to say on online dating sites
1. Make it personal
I don’t mean that you should tell her about mole on your cock. I mean that when you send her an icebreaker message you should tailor it to her specifically. You don’t want to be sending any generic message like: ‘Hey baby. Wanna make out?’ That probably won’t elicit much of a response. Why? Because it’s boring, uninteresting, lacks any meaningful way to respond other than a snarky dismissal, and it’s just too easy.
If she’s on a hookup dating site, she likely gets quite a few messages like that from idiotic men who don’t know what to say all the time. She ignores everyone of them.
What works is something clever like making a cheesy pun out of her name or engaging her profile in some way. You don’t want to sound random or generic. This isn’t middle school. Saying random stuff to girls is the equivalent of throwing dandelions up their skirts or chasing them around with turds you picked up off the ground. Don’t do it.
Icebreakers are tricky. You want to say something clever, witty, and that will be remembered, but you also want to target it specifically to them. We’re women, even if you’re having sex with 10 different girls and you want to make her feel like you’re the only girl in the world at that time. You want to make her feel special. She’ll like that. Trust me. I like that. Even when I know he’s a horny toad.
Ask them questions
If you’re wondering what to say to women online to get them to go out with you, you’re asking the wrong question. You should be asking yourself “how do I get to know this girl better.” Oh I know.. I’ll ask her questions! Not complicated.
Why do questions work so well? They make it easier for us to respond to you and allow us to talk about ourselves. Girls love talking about themselves. Trust me. It’s our favorite topic of conversation. Why do you think we spend hours a day putting on makeup and doing our hair? So we’ll fuck you? Please. We could get you to fuck us even if we were wearing tablecloth. We want all the other girls to talk about how awesome our hair looks and that new dress with those shoes. And then we want the other girls to talk about who we’re fucking and how many guys we’re dating. It really has very little to do with you. Just kidding. Not really.
So the point of all that is, ask us questions about stuff we like because it lets us talk about ourselves and we like that.
If you’re wondering what kind of stuff to ask about. Ask about our favorite food or bands or places we’ve been to. Stuff like that.
If you see we’re fans of a band you like it is not an appropriate time to tell us everything you know about the band. Why? Because you’re talking about yourself. We don’t like that. We want to talk about ourselves. It’s a crappy icebreaker. There will be plenty of time to talk about yourself later. If you want to engage a woman, get her talking about herself.
Pickup lines usually do not work unless you make fun of yourself after using one. For instance, I had a guy tell me I must be wearing space pants because my ass is out of this world. And I stared at him for like 4 seconds and then he burst out laughing and we fucked.
That only worked because he did not take himself too seriously and the expression on his face was adorable when I was staring at him. Also, none of this is relevant to an online dating site. Saying stupid things like that are better on dating sites if you can incorporate her name or some aspect of her profile into your icebreaker. Why? Because it’s about her. Girls love things that are about them. Trust me.